THE PHASES OF CARRYING

THE PHASES OF CARRYING part I) 

Carrying heart to heart.

• What value it has for the newborn.

Carrying heart to heart allows the newborn to have a prolongation of life in utero. The smell of the mother of which she keeps a vivid memory and the heartbeat that marked the time of pregnancy facilitate the adaptation of the newborn to the new life by being comfortable and curled up, assuming a natural and automatic fetal position. Being carried for the newborn is a need to be able to feel welcomed, accompanied gently, wrapped, cradled and touched. These treatments remove the idea of having been expelled from one world and catapulted into another.. 

Touch is one of the first senses that develops, so it has been for almost the entire pregnancy that your skin gathers information and sensations it feeds on touches. It seems reasonable to me to think that it is the most needy sense of being involved in order for the baby to recognize his parents and himself.

What can be done for the newborn is to respond to his needs with physical contact and emotional tact, placing him to listen to that heart he knows there, where he was until a moment before the revolution. 

• What value it has for the wearer.

Carrying is calming, it is the most natural and instinctive care that the baby needs. Offering support, warmth and containment is what can generally be a source of calm even for the parent, because it is precisely the tranquility of the child that makes those who take care of them feel receptive and competent.

The carrying described up to here on closer inspection does not necessarily include the use of a sling ... I mean arms and an eye to the needs of the newborn could be enough. 

But then why use a sling, or a baby carrier? Because thanks to a support you can be emotionally present and you can do it with your hands free! ". The use of a support allows us to maintain those habits we really care about, it allows us to be useful in small chores or in errands, avoiding a one-way gaze towards the child who could become heavy and alienating, allowing us to integrate parenting into a new daily life yet to be outlined.. 

THE STAGES OF CARRYING part II) 

Bring on the hip.

• What value does it have for the child.

Carrying on the side is an important step that the child requires when he becomes interested in the surrounding world. The child passing by on the side still feels the need to be brought into contact but his center of interest is no longer just those who take care of him.

On the side, the world discovers it at the height of the great, it can see the same things as those who support it and may want to interact or simply listen or assimilate knowledge and experiences. Now the first occasions arise to begin associating the indicated object with a precise name, this is the period of joint attention / attention shared, the period of shared knowledge. Looking at the child, he learns about the world around him.. 

• What value it has for the wearer.

The carrying on the side is fast, if necessary it is excellent for short trips, it is functional if you have to do a job in a hurry and at that precise moment the child is in the throes of despair

and desires pampering at all costs or is very curious about what those who take care of him are doing.

The wearer can immediately respond comprehensively to emotional needs and to all those waves of curiosity that naturally arise in the small. 

But as for carrying heart to heart, even carrying on the side does not need support, in fact if the child independently supports the neck and the bust is toned, it is spontaneous to those who take care of him, resting on the "favorite side" ...

So when to use a ring or a short band on the hip 

It can obviously be used for small daily trips and is very functional to start carrying on the back is in fact the bridge between carrying heart to heart and carrying behind. A continuity is created between the eye contact always maintained in carrying heart to heart and carrying on the back where eye contact is totally lost to give way to all the other senses to be activated in the communication of the dyad in preverbal agee) 

THE PHASES OF CARRYING part III) 

Carry on your back.

• What value it has for the child.

The child carried on the back is a child who feels free and autonomous, he can look at the whole world around him in total safety since annoying noises, light sources or unpleasant smells are shielded from the body of the bearer and rest can still be simple. like when he was heart to heart being able to recognize all those smells and sounds so dear and familiar to him.

• What value it has for the wearer.

For the bearer it is a passage of self-confidence, in their feeling of being a competent parent, they abandon their sight to communicate in another way, being able to feel the needs of their child that they have learned to recognize and their way of interacting that is no longer a total mystery, the desire to know and discover the world that gives way to sleep and without seeing you can feel the weight of the eyelids that let go when he is close to falling asleep because and he feels his little body becoming very heavy.

The bearer's back Breathe a sigh of relief! Finally he can regain some tone, the shoulders can reopen and gain stability, the perineum well I would say that if he could speak he would thank! 

Carrying on the back is the last phase of a journey where the child discovers what is the most sincere and visceral love "love is not looking at each other, but it is looking together in the same direction"..