PROVIDING A SECURE BASE IS NOT A WASTE OF TIME.
When a newborn is given birth, he passes from a warm world known to him, in his measure, to an unknown, very spacious world.
In uterine life, all her needs were met immediately. The mother's body was at her complete disposal for nourishment, pampering, walks, and any other physiological needs.
In the extra-uterine life he finds himself having to ask constantly, before the mother's body responded passively, now the baby has to send activating messages. The baby has to send a loud and clear message for practically everything to have food, to sleep, to be changed, to have a cuddle. The message is conveyed by gestures and tears that the parent will learn to recognize and over time also to anticipate.
We really think that crying is necessary to educate the child Why let it cry instead of anticipating, and if you really don't arrive in time, why deliberately ignore this request for helpto?
Why a welcomed and cared for child is often referred to as a spoiled child, and why caring parents are a mother hen or a mother hena?
How can we really believe that a newborn can get by on their own “No parent can provide a secure foundation for their growing child unless they have understanding and respect for their child's attachment behavior and treat this behavior as an inherently valuable part of human nature.”. The newborn demands our presence, the more caring parent is and will be his or her reference and attachment figure until he feels ready enough for the world. What does babywearing have to do with Bowlby's theory of attachment? Having established that the child has needs and that to be able to give the child a secure basis, these needs must be met, there is a component that should not be underestimated ... time! Unfortunately, we are increasingly attentive to the amount of time spent doing something and not to its quality. A new mother does not change her life once she gives birth, in fact she continues to be a woman, wife, perhaps a worker, mother already of another child and the time to devote to the newcomer will not be a privileged and exclusive time. Babywearing allows you to keep your baby close to you, responding to their needs for contact and containment and at the same time being able to navigate the sea of other things you have to do..
Babywearing is what comes closest to what is the balance between before and after birth for both the mother and the newborn.
As long as the time spent recovering from childbirth is not valued, the time spent in the Latvian getting to know the newcomer and resting will be seen as wasted time, as long as fathers only have 7 days off work then babywearing will be one of the means more effective for achieving a peaceful everyday life.